Anxiety robs us of enjoying life. It's the great thief of our time and you should view it as your enemy.

In 1998 I was on an extremely turbulent flight. What probably lasted 15 minutes seemed to go on for hours. After this experience, I thought I was fine, but I was wrong.

A few months later, I wa...

It's easy to find things to worry about and dread. Being grateful is often hard, yet ironically, our gratitude is more grounded in reality than our fears. So many things in life are outside our control, but one thing you can directly influence is your perspective.

You can focus on what's going wron...

History is filled with examples of people who overcame the most challenging of circumstances. Learn as much as a you can from those who overcome. What you'll find is that you CAN improve your self-confidence if you work at it.

People who build self confidence are committed to not avoiding things, k...

The success you experience in counseling or coaching depends, in part, on the quality of the professional you hire. I'm often asked about people I recommend. Here are some qualities I look for in a coach. Hopefully, this list will help you make the best choice possible.

9 Qualities to Look for in a...

Not much will improve your mental health faster than facing your fears. Nothing is more damaging to your mental health than playing it safe.

"Courage is the price life exacts for granting peace." - Amelia Aerhardt

What actions below would trigger the most FEAR in you? Decide to do something on...

Most procrastination is driven by fear. You avoid facing things because, subconsciously, you believe it keeps you safe (i.e. "I won't get hurt/rejected/judged, like in the past, if I don't engage").

Do you have tasks at home and work you keep avoiding? Think of these as "loose ends" or "mental clut...

The reason to go back and your past is so that you're no longer victimized by it. Denial and its various forms (e.g., minimization, rationalization, avoidance, etc.) allow your past to continue to negatively impact your mindset and emotional health.

Putting it to rest, accepting it, letting it go, ...

With all I know about mental health, I still get stuck in worry. I'm often the most negative person I know. Here are three things you must do to get unstuck from your fears and anxieties.

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Life is hard! It brings us many challenges we didn't expect and weren't prepared to face. I've had days when I've struggled to stay hopeful. Many people vacillate between hope and fear. I write this post to remind myself and to remind you to choose hope.

There are two orientations towards life; a f...

Clients frequently ask for help in coping with stress. Most people can identify the source of their tension (e.g. parenting, relationships, the economy, money, job, health, COVID, etc.), but often CANNOT CAN use to help you handle anything bothering you.

Stress comes from focusing our energy on thi...

You cannot erase your past, but you can change your perspective about your past. Seeing the meaning behind what happened in a whole knew light. You can influence your attitude and actions today, not change what happened yesterday.

Some people will do almost anything to avoid addressing their past. ...

Anxiety and depression focus on what can go wrong. It zeroes in on the worst outcome coming true and bad things happening again. Hope focuses on what can go right, and the opportunity in every circumstance.

Here are some anxious thoughts I've had, and heard, recently. Any seem familiar?

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