Decision making can be one of the biggest challenges in life. Getting stuck in indecision leads to lost opportunities, leadership failure, damaged relationships, and tremendous anxiety.
Few things bring as much relief as getting decisions made. With practice, you can improve your ability to make qu...
We all have seasons in our lives when it's very hard to be positive. I can easily view myself as the victim. Gratitude is one of the only things that can end my pity party.
Focusing on gratitude has helped me on my darkest days. It helps me get focused on what's right rather than what's wrong.
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I'm a middle child from a loud and emotionally expressive family. Growing up, everyone expressed how they felt - except me. I decided at a young age to hide my feelings and live inside my head. Not a strategy I would recommend.
From age 16 to 22, I used negative coping mechanisms to numb and attemp...
Anxiety robs us of enjoying life. It's the great thief of our time and you should view it as your enemy.
In 1998 I was on an extremely turbulent flight. What probably lasted 15 minutes seemed to go on for hours. After this experience, I thought I was fine, but I was wrong.
A few months later, I wa...
The success you experience in counseling or coaching depends, in part, on the quality of the professional you hire. I'm often asked about people I recommend. Here are some qualities I look for in a coach. Hopefully, this list will help you make the best choice possible.
9 Qualities to Look for in a...
Life is hard! It brings us many challenges we didn't expect and weren't prepared to face. I've had days when I've struggled to stay hopeful. Many people vacillate between hope and fear. I write this post to remind myself and to remind you to choose hope.
There are two orientations towards life; a f...
I've learned over the years that the way out of anxiety and depression always starts with becoming aware that you're struggling with your attitude. Once you're aware you are stuck, then you can then make changes. You won't try to fix something you don't acknowledge is broken.
Below are some thought...
Anxiety and depression focus on what can go wrong. It zeroes in on the worst outcome coming true and bad things happening again. Hope focuses on what can go right, and the opportunity in every circumstance.
Here are some anxious thoughts I've had, and heard, recently. Any seem familiar?
- "I don't ...
You will make some bad decisions in life and that's OK. You'll trust untrustworthy people. You'll take the wrong job. An investment of time and money will go south.
Will you follow up bad choices by learning and taking a better path?
In How to Make the Good Decisions (Part 1) I gave you 7 tools th...
What is anxiety? It's a confusing thing. Here's my best effort at explaining it in understandable language. Understanding something will help you overcome it.
What is Anxiety?
- Something that stifles your intuition & creativity
- Something that steals your ability to trust yourself
- Being consumed ...
Being vulnerable on an emotional level is terrifying. One reason I became a therapist is to appear like I've got things together. When people come to me for help, I'm seen as the expert, therefore I remain in control. I'm more comfortable helping than being helped. Asking for help is scary.
I share...
